This post is brought to you by recent life events
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Whether I experienced it myself 
or not, it’s yours to figure out – wahahaha! (Intriguingggg!
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The point is, I share these to give you that feeling of reassurance that you are not alone and maybe hear you say: “Heck yeah, me too!!!”
If anything, I know that going through any of these signal growth, transformation, and unbelievable blessings in disguise.
So, if you need a reality check, this email is just for you!
Ready? Let’s go
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- Fall in love with somebody you should or can never be with. Discover the meaning of true unconditional love withoutnecessarily hurting other people.
- Land your first career breakthrough and receive a bad news from your family – bad medical report of a parent. Realise the frailty of life and how it sucks sometimes.
- Walk down the aisle without your parent who died before your wedding. Out of the blue, a butterfly walks down with you and makes you finally believe in spiritual world.
- Take a job that overworks and under appreciates you. Use it as a life reference for the kind of treatment you won’t give to your future employees when you build your own.
- Give your absolute best in your job, get promised for a promotion and see it get taken away from you due to nepotism. Learn to open-heartedly accept the reality of life being unfair and decide to not let this fact get in the way of your envisioned future.
- Get promoted for the position you truly been dreaming of and realise it’s not what you really want.
- Feel angry seeing your officemates having to wipe somebody else’s a$$ for a d@mn promotion and realise that you cannot stomach corporate bullshit anymore, so you build your own ladder.
- Cry over the fact that you don’t even want to build a ladder anymore – always having to achieve the next big thing. Realise that what you want is to build a ‘lighthouse’, helping illuminate the light in other people.
- Talk about your friend in the same circle and obliviously call it ‘caring’ by pointing out the reasons the friend made a wrong decision. Realise that being in the same group does not permit you to talk about each other even when the intention is well. Let this be the wake-up call to improve your boundaries and respect of other people’s boundaries.
- Get jealous at your friend who’s getting everything you want and let it come between you two. Later realise that you can hold opposing feelings of happiness and jealousy at the same time, but that doesn’t mean you have to cut the friendship or beat yourself up for feeling that way.
- Have absolutely atrocious sex and not feel bad about it – for now.
- Follow someone else’s dream because you don’t know what else to do and subsequently end up having to re-do your entire life.
- Swear to yourself you’re a human of intellect + logic and believe that feelings get in the way of making the right decision until you feel miserable. Realise that all along your decision to make everything based on logic is your emotional defence mechanism to keep you safe that makes you no different from being emotional after all.
- Put your emotions on a pedestal that you give yourself so fully into it, to the point of regressing into a petty and purely reactive version of yourself – not accomplishing anything else but complain and blame.
- Meet someone you have a very strong connection with right after you get married. Learn that it’s possible to deeply connect with many people, but building a long-lasting marriage is more than keeping love, attraction, and connection.
- State your opinion about something you have not thoroughly researched and end up sounding like a bumbling idiot. Realise that your highly opinionated self is really YOU just avoiding to find answers to your own questions and doubts about your own life.
- Spend years blaming your parents for making unwise decisions as the reason for where you are today and end up realising that they were doing their best with what they know. Since YOU know better, but NOT doing better, then the blame is on you.
- Blame everybody else but yourself for all your problems and see those problems spread like wildfire.
- Become the person – friend or lover – who you never wanted to be. And later meet someone who else who was this previous version of you, now it’s easier for you to forgive and understand this person who WAS you.
- Take the love and care of your family for granted. Realise that a whole lifetime isn’t enough to thank and give back for all they support they’ve given you.
- Fight for your comfort zone and limitations so hard that you get to keep them. Realise that growth only happens when you challenge yourself and push your own limits.
- Text your ex or enemy when you’re drunk and do something you regret. Learn the importance of knowing and respecting your own limits.
- Beat yourself up for all the misfortunes and mistakes you’ve made – and then later realise that without these breakdowns, there would be no breakthroughs.
It’s okay to feel cringey about your mistakes and despair over your misfortunes. I do.
However, remember that the best thing about life is – nothing is permanent.
With its impermanency, we can be sure that we are always evolving, growing or realising.
Let’s celebrate our misfortunes and mistakes, without them, we won’t be the person we are today – wuhooo!
Can I get a comment of “ME TOO” if you relate with any of the points above?
No judgment I dropped mine first,only yours to figure out which ones hahahaha!
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Happy very long weekend everyone! 
Ad astra,
Dane
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